Men’s Interpersonal Process Group
A confidential, consistent, reliable, grounded space for men to get real — to connect, be challenged, supported, understood, build trust, accountability, and learn new ways of relating.
Join other committed men for honest conversation, somatic awareness, and relational growth. While we work with all genders and believe we all need to be skilled at relating to and interacting with all genders, it can sometimes be helpful to spend time in a group of same-gender-identifying people to reduce one variable that adds complexity and misunderstanding to our relationships.
Who this group is for
This group is for men who want greater ease and authenticity in their lives and relationships — at home, at work, and within themselves.
Common themes include loneliness, anger, fatherhood, intimacy, career stress, and finding meaning.
Connection
Real conversations with men who listen, reflect, and respond honestly. In our age of social media and many superficial digital connections, group therapy helps us learn to relate to others, regardless of how similar or different they are to us. Actually, experiencing genuine connection with others, especially others who are different than you and whom you typically spend time with, is an important life experience that can help us with all of our relationships and social interactions. I stand firmly in my mission to create spaces where people from diverse backgrounds and beliefs can engage in healthy conversations and relationships, especially in our current polarized environment.
Skillful relating
Practice giving and receiving feedback, naming your thoughts, feelings, needs, desires, and imaginings, and setting boundaries.
Growth + accountability
A consistent space to deepen self-awareness and try new ways of being with others. Our groups are not just supportive; they can also be challenging, especially as you develop the skill to be honest about your thoughts, feelings, and perceptions of yourself and others. Even when you are afraid, being honest may lead to judgment. To get the most from groups, we recommend you also have an individual therapist. The group alone may be sufficient for ongoing work, especially if you are experienced in therapy or personal growth. But for most people, focused 1:1 work in individual and group therapy is a great combination, as they are both different and equally powerful therapeutic experiences.
What to expect
- Interpersonal process work — bringing what’s present in the here and now personally and between members into the room.
- A closed, committed circle of the same men each week who invest in themselves and each other
- Experiential exercises and somatic practices.
- A culture of confidentiality, respect, support, and challenge.
- Skilled facilitation that balances curiosity, structure, and containment.
“This group gave me a place to practice honesty without falling apart — and to learn I wasn’t as alone as I thought.” — participant (anonymous)
Details & commitment
Location: In person at Inner Life Adventures, Fort Collins, CO. Zoom hybrid option for weeks when you are unable to attend in person.
Session length: 90 minutes (weekly).
Typical cost: $50 per session
Day and Time: There are currently two groups running, Tuesdays 5:00-6:30 and Thursdays 4:30-6:00
Groups typically request a minimum commitment (e.g., 12 weeks) to build trust and continuity. New member openings are limited—this helps keep the group stable and relationally safe. During that time, if the group isn’t working for you or there are aspects you don’t like, you are asked to discuss them openly and directly. You will likely get what you need. When you are ready to end, whether after 12 weeks or after years, as some men choose, you will have an intentional ending to honor the time you have spent in a relationship with these men.
This men’s interpersonal process group can help you become more real and honest with yourself and others, propelling you into deeper relationships and greater success through challenge and support from other men. It is a real-time lab where you will experience yourself and others with greater awareness and can try new behaviors and ways of relating to be more effective in your life.
All topics and goals are welcome. Common themes are anger, depression, anxiety, personal identity, masculinity, relationships with women and/or other men, assertiveness, sex/sexuality, disconnect from emotions, work problems, fatherhood, confidence/self-esteem, accountability, honesty, spirituality, finding purpose and meaning in life. The group runs on the topics you bring, and is then facilitated more directly into the here-and-now relationships with the other people in the group.
This group has been running weekly since 2016, facilitated by Chuck; over a decade earlier, it was facilitated by a psychologist who retired and passed it on to Chuck. The long-standing stability, diversity of age, background, and experience among members, and the facilitator’s experience are rare and among the most beneficial aspects of this group.
The ideal candidate will have prior or current experience with therapy or other personal growth, but motivation and a desire for greater self-awareness will also enable you to benefit if this is your first experience.
All men are welcome in this group. You are welcome with all of your struggles, your gifts, your challenges, your gender, your sexuality, your personality, your pain, your shame, your questions, and your desires. All of you is welcome here!
Frequently asked questions
Is this group “therapy” or a support group?
It’s an interpersonal process therapy group facilitated by a licensed clinician trained in group therapy — a place for both therapeutic depth and practical relational skill-building. It is not a support group, although it can be supportive at times. It is also challenging at times. Group therapy is a great adjunct to individual therapy, and group members can work on most of the same issues that are addressed in individual therapy. Depression, anxiety, addictions to substances, screens, porn, relationship problems, motivation, life transitions, and more are all very common issues people are working on.
I’m nervous. What if I don’t know what to say?
Totally normal. You can start by saying that. It’s real, direct, and honest. That is what the group is all about. New members often start by listening and sharing small pieces. The group culture supports gradual vulnerability and learning at your own pace. The beginning of the group can be the most potent time, where you can face some of your biggest fears and insecurities.
Why would I pay for a group when there are many free ones out there?
Great question. Most simply put, you get what you pay for. Chuck is a member of the AGPA (American Group Psychotherapy Association) and has invested many years and thousands of dollars in his own training and education. He continues to participate as a group member, attending training sessions and conferences to continue learning and growing. Running depth-oriented groups is probably the most challenging task in the therapy and personal growth world. Most group leaders lack formal training, resulting in poor group experiences or leaders acting on their own agendas. Even if you are lucky enough to find a free group with a great facilitator, you likely have commitment and attendance issues where you can’t trust everyone will show up each week. Joining a professionally facilitated paid group is a solid, reliable container where you know men are invested and ready to show up each week.
If you can’t afford a paid group due to difficult circumstances, joining an established free peer-led group is definitely better than going it alone. Chuck was a member of a couple of them for several years and knows that good work does happen there when you get with the right people. If this group is not right for you, keep looking for the one that is. We’re not meant to go through life without healthy relationships with others who are invested in mutual health and growth.
Regardless of whether you join a paid or free group, be sure to ask the facilitator about their training and experience leading groups. It is very different from 1:1 work. If you have had a bad experience in a group, I would be willing to bet it was due to an untrained facilitator.
Ready to learn more?
Reserve a free 30-minute consultation — we’ll answer your questions and see if the group is a good fit.
If the current group is full, we keep a short waitlist and announce new openings.