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Feel like you are just repeating yourself, feeling more disconnected, and getting the same old results?

Nobody exists outside the context of relationship.  Whether you are in relationship with a romantic partner, parent, friend, co-worker, children, neighbors, or anyone in your community, how we show up in relationship has a huge impact on our quality of life and our self perception. Relationship work can be helpful for your own individual growth as well as healing and improving your relationships directly.  In our view, healthy relationships and knowing your place interdependent (not overly dependent or overly self-reliant and independent) with other people in your life is one of the most important markers for mental and emotional health.

Both in the present moment in my consulting room and looking at relationships with others in your life, we help people use the lens of relationship to see yourself more clearly.  Looking at yourself in isolation is a limited view.  But in context of how you relate to others allows more opportunities for your triggers and challenges arise.

We help couples and individuals with marriage or relationship counseling, not just to learn to communicate, but to uncover the deeper patterns that fuel unhelpful behaviors unconsciously such as attachment style, unconscious needs, trauma, personality, desires, fantasy, etc.

Couples often come in saying they want more connection, they want to stop fighting, or they want tools for communication.  We definitely have tools for communication and more.  Communication is the first step, but we can’t stop there.  What are we communicating?  What do we need to communicate? What have we never known we need to communicate?  We’ll give you the skills, tools, space, and confidence to express yourself in new and more effective ways while at the same time helping you to dig deeper into changing the limiting patterns that are causing challenges in your life; helping you to relate more intimately, honestly, and vulnerably with yourself and your world.

Once we learn how to have safe, connecting conversations, we utilize some of the latest tools and methods to work with what is happening in the present moment, coaching you to have new experiences now building more compassion, vulnerability, trust, and connection. Some of the tools and training we utilize include Relational Life Therapy (Terrance Real), Emotionally Focused Therapy, Hakomi (mindfulness based somatic therapy), attachment theory, sex therapy, and Gottman Method.

We can discuss what format is best for you.  We offer weekly and bi-weekly 60 and 90 minute sessions in office as well as day long and 2-3 day intensives in office, your location, or in a wilderness setting.

Buffalo Community

We will help you get back into solid, connected relationship with yourself, your partner(s), and your community.

We work relationally with:

  • Couples
  • Individuals
  • Sexually and Relationally Diverse People
    • Non-monogamy, Polyamory, Kink, GLBT, etc…
  • Families

With topics of:

  • Communication
  • Intimacy
  • Trust
  • Vulnerability
  • Sexuality
  • Needs
  • Infidelity
  • Relationship Repair
  • Attachment
  • Enmeshment
  • Co-Dependence
  • Independence
  • Withdrawal
  • Ending Relationship Well
  • Breaking Up/Divorce
  • And more